I got taken off site. I put up a voluntary survey as a family and marriage counselor student. I’ve been doing research and can’t believe there is no narcissistic abuse syndrome studies going on. I put my email up and guaranteed confidentiality. Reading some of your rules now I get it. The problem is is that counselors need to be trained and aware of the characteristics of this abuse. I want to get feedback but in no way want to jeopardize confidentiality. So is there a way for them to answer these questions, send them directly to you, and I send them to me without email addresses. I would never ever even consider using their email or even recording it. However I respect your right to be wary. I just want to make a difference, give them a voice, and use it to help other couples counselors. So if you can relay a way to do this without infringing on anyone’s confidentiality please please let me know how I can do that. My responses will be numbered and I plan no correspondence through my email. There are hundreds of studies on narcissists and treatments even though narcissists rarely go to therapy unless dragged, and treatment is almost zero effective. I want to help the people, like me, who will be going to counselors and provide eventually a testing tool (THERE ARE NONE!) so when they go for counseling they are helped. So please respond. My email is rominger@gmail.com. I respect your wariness I just didn’t know how else to gather data. Please give me an alternative way and I will abide by it. This is an extremely important issue and I am still shocked it’s not a diagnosis, or even a “thing.” My phone is 317-458-0145. You can text or call but I even don’t pick up with unknown numbers. Thank you for your help. Laura.
I have been doing a lot of research the past week and a half. It has done wonders for me to understand what i have been dealing with the last 30 years. It is a funny thing to be a big strong guy. And fear the wrath of a little woman. Just for saying the littlest thing she doesn't like. I have not had the feelings to be intimate with her. It is also funny how I have naturally done a lot of the self preservative tactics. But I have found that I have had to fight fire with fire at times. Making me seem as bad as her. My N is an animal horder and we have fought over her obsession for as long as I have been with her. She wants them but doesn't want to clean up after them properly. The house that we own together is a pig sty and she doesn't mind animals feeces in the least. Our house is gross and stinks. Family won't come here. And I am embarrassed to invite anyone to my house. It is not easy to leave a house you have paid for, for25 years. I left 11 years ago for 10 months. She stalked me for 4 months. Then after 10 months, living at a friend's house and still paying the mortgage. She got herself so worked up over a1 year deadline of me coming back. That she put herself in the Hospital with high blood pressure. I was well into my healing. I went to the hospital and she made all these promises that she broke! My daughter was only14 so I decided to go back. She taught my daughter to be the same way. After getting fired2 years ago they almost broke me. They would tag team me. I called my mom and cried on the phone. I hadn't cried since I was a kid. My is a N but she is religious and her love for me pulled me through. I finally got my daughter to move out with her boyfriend and my granddaughter a year ago. That helped with the abuse. But now the N I am with is into chickens along with all the cats and dog and other animals she has. She is so sweat with everyone else and they think she is great. She lies about me and to me all the time. To complain about any of it is to invite a war. I an emotionally drained from fighting with her about the animals for the last 30 that I have given up . My basement is so bad that I think the athorities would condemn the house. After clean and painting it several times. Along with putting in a new cement floor. No amount of work I do to the house it doesn't matter.
I got taken off site. I put up a voluntary survey as a family and marriage counselor student. I’ve been doing research and can’t believe there is no narcissistic abuse syndrome studies going on. I put my email up and guaranteed confidentiality. Reading some of your rules now I get it.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is is that counselors need to be trained and aware of the characteristics of this abuse. I want to get feedback but in no way want to jeopardize confidentiality. So is there a way for them to answer these questions, send them directly to you, and I send them to me without email addresses. I would never ever even consider using their email or even recording it. However I respect your right to be wary. I just want to make a difference, give them a voice, and use it to help other couples counselors.
So if you can relay a way to do this without infringing on anyone’s confidentiality please please let me know how I can do that. My responses will be numbered and I plan no correspondence through my email.
There are hundreds of studies on narcissists and treatments even though narcissists rarely go to therapy unless dragged, and treatment is almost zero effective. I want to help the people, like me, who will be going to counselors and provide eventually a testing tool (THERE ARE NONE!) so when they go for counseling they are helped.
So please respond.
My email is rominger@gmail.com.
I respect your wariness I just didn’t know how else to gather data. Please give me an alternative way and I will abide by it. This is an extremely important issue and I am still shocked it’s not a diagnosis, or even a “thing.” My phone is 317-458-0145. You can text or call but I even don’t pick up with unknown numbers.
Thank you for your help.
Laura.
I have been doing a lot of research the past week and a half. It has done wonders for me to understand what i have been dealing with the last 30 years. It is a funny thing to be a big strong guy. And fear the wrath of a little woman. Just for saying the littlest thing she doesn't like. I have not had the feelings to be intimate with her. It is also funny how I have naturally done a lot of the self preservative tactics. But I have found that I have had to fight fire with fire at times. Making me seem as bad as her. My N is an animal horder and we have fought over her obsession for as long as I have been with her. She wants them but doesn't want to clean up after them properly. The house that we own together is a pig sty and she doesn't mind animals feeces in the least. Our house is gross and stinks. Family won't come here. And I am embarrassed to invite anyone to my house. It is not easy to leave a house you have paid for, for25 years. I left 11 years ago for 10 months. She stalked me for 4 months. Then after 10 months, living at a friend's house and still paying the mortgage. She got herself so worked up over a1 year deadline of me coming back. That she put herself in the Hospital with high blood pressure. I was well into my healing. I went to the hospital and she made all these promises that she broke! My daughter was only14 so I decided to go back. She taught my daughter to be the same way. After getting fired2 years ago they almost broke me. They would tag team me. I called my mom and cried on the phone. I hadn't cried since I was a kid. My is a N but she is religious and her love for me pulled me through. I finally got my daughter to move out with her boyfriend and my granddaughter a year ago. That helped with the abuse. But now the N I am with is into chickens along with all the cats and dog and other animals she has. She is so sweat with everyone else and they think she is great. She lies about me and to me all the time. To complain about any of it is to invite a war. I an emotionally drained from fighting with her about the animals for the last 30 that I have given up . My basement is so bad that I think the athorities would condemn the house. After clean and painting it several times. Along with putting in a new cement floor. No amount of work I do to the house it doesn't matter.
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